'member?

Do you 'member? 'Member when? Have you lost a family member? Lost a relationship? Been used and abused by people? Struggled with addictions? Remember how painful that was? No really remember. That lost and lonely feeling that sat on us like a blanket.How quickly we who have been healed or found our way to God or found our way out of the muck we were once lost in forget what it is like to be there . Alone. Caught up in circumstances real or imagined. Depression,thoughts of negative self worth. Most of us have been there. But why do we not remember this pain and it's feeling when we see someone else in the middle of it? I imagine its because of the false belief that some of us have that if we avoid talking or thinking about a past pain we will never have it again. I have found this to be a falsehood that actually makes us weaker .If we acknowledge that there is pain in our lives and there always be ,because it's a natural part of life ,then we actually lesson the time we are in these "valleys". I saw a friend yesterday who is going through a separation. You know what he needed from me? Money? A couple of single lady friends digits? A friend at his "Pity Party"? A pep talk on how it was meant to be? No ,he just needed what we all need when we are in those places .He just needed to know that I cared. Compassion not pity. We spend so much time worrying these days about tomorrow and all of our rat race problems that we walk right past people without seeing that they are in a bad place . We have our faces glued to our phones or we walk by people and give them our Sunday morning church smile without really wanting to know how they are? A friend of mine told me a few years ago that "People don't care how much you know til they know how much you care" Men throughout time have said that that the light in our eyes reflect the light in our soul. Take some time away from your iPods and check out the eyes of the people you meet today.